It’s often difficult to explain to people, especially parents, why you don’t want a traditional ceremony when you get married. It’s not exactly accurate to dictate that all women want the big white dress with the fairy tale entrance. Some do. But there’s nothing wrong with choosing something different.

Just because your mother pulls out a strapless wedding gown that she believes will set the aisle on fire doesn’t mean you have to actually agree to it. If you would prefer to have a costumed themed wedding, you have that right. Mothers and the soon to be mother-in-laws can be less than understanding and can push their will on your day. Being assertive can help ease this.

Some women choose to go all out, and that’s fine. They have a little liposculpture done beforehand and they don’t settle for the groom to look any less than his best. If the real thing is not available, some women fine the absolute best in fine costume jewelry for the women of the wedding party as well as mothers. Going all out can be fun and it can fulfill a childhood fantasy for some women.

The pressure is alive and well in many families simply because there are a great many parents who have already looked into their minds and have seen what they picture your wedding day. An only daughter can face more pressure than most. This can make it difficult when you are trying to create a wedding that differs from their ideas.

You don’t have to ditch it all. You might believe that you think the gown is perfect but you are sticking to your guns that you will not hold the ceremony in a religious setting. If the beaches or the mountains hold more intrigue and romance for you and that’s what you want, go for it. Many individuals that do not go to church regularly do not get married inside of one.

Women have come to realize that the idea of the story book wedding doesn’t lead to a story book life. Whenever there are two people trying to make things work, there are two people who will disagree, argue, and work toward resolution.

Thanks to the pioneering efforts of the late nineties, the traditional wedding is losing its restrictive ideals, and people are accepting that. Just as women of the seventies and eighties fought hard to take the word ‘obey’ from the vows and replace it with something more mutual, women of the nineties have paved a road for those that want to reconstruct their wedding of their own special design.