April 21, 2010
Tips For a Long Happy Marriage
Did you think that love conquers all?, if yes you had better read all this article. The problem is that often people get married with the idea that their chemistry or undying love for each other will keep them together forever.
Think about how you got together, was it through friends, work or a online dating site like match or plenty of fish?, also known as plentyofish, did you really give yourself enough time to get to know each other?
However, with a very large percentage of marriages ending in divorce these days, it’s obvious that a lot of marriages that start out well still fail. Therefore if you want your marriage to be a long time success it pays to know a few truths before getting married. Here are a number of tips for staying together longer:
Over the years, people often drift apart or relationships and marriages become stale because couples fail to do new and special things together.
That’s why going on new and refreshing dates is so important. In fact, there is something about dating” that creates a sense of magic in a relationship and can even bring relationships out of a rut.
While on a date, you also put more effort into your appearance, have more uninterrupted time to communicate on a deeper level and are naturally drawn closer together.
Stuck for ideas?, just try using Google and search for fun and interesting activities in your local town, city or state, you will be surprised at what you can find.
It’s a well-documented statistic that couples who have dated for a year or longer before marriage have a significantly lower rate of divorce than those who married after a short dating period.
A year of seeing each other gives time for many emotions to surface and many character traits to be discovered. You may adore someone in the spring, but despise him or her in the winter.
Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on the third date isn’t romantic, it’s really very silly, it may work for a few people but for most it will end in tears.
Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners tend to stop praising each other because they ‘assume’ their partner already knows what they’re thinking.
When in reality, a day should never go by without you praising your partner. Compliment them on their cooking, reaffirm that they’re the greatest person in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role model. If you want to be loved and romanced by your sweetheart, love and romance them first. When they’re feeling loved, it is much easier for them to love in return.
Are you a super supporter of what your mate does and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them all the time? Or do they always hear boos or silence~Or do they always hear boos or silence}?
Couples with the most problems are often the ones that say, “I just don’t understand him/her.”
So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about your mate’s profession or the degree they are pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his interest in football? If you are a man, do you understand what women experience during PMS or menopause?
You don’t need to be identical, but make an effort to learn about the things that interest your better half in life and you’ll grow closer as a result.
Does your partner want kids? Do you both want to have careers? Do they have a history of spending their way into debt? Do they go to church?
In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get married.
I guess people think they’ll be able to change their partner after marriage and everything will be better. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discuss finances, religion, sex, housing, money, your future, and other topics in great detail, you could end up with nothing but argument after argument for the rest of your days.
In the end, if you both have completely different views, desires and goals in life, there’s no guarantee that chemistry or a lot of “I love you’s” will help you stay together.
Make it your utmost priority to understand each other ‘inside-out’ BEFORE you take that walk down the aisle, and it really does not matter where you met, even if it was a dating site like planty of fish, what counts is that you put into action some of the tips you have just read in this article, good luck.
December 9, 2009
How To Win Him Back – By Ignoring Him For A While
Split up recently? Looking to discover how to win him back?
I think your best bet is to stop any contact with him.
Probably the last thing on your mind, but it will work. Believe me.
No doubt you are feeling some serious emotional pain right now.
Your emotions are no doubt up & down like a yo-yo.
You get the best of both worlds if you cut all contact with your ex.
First it will give you a bit of time to heal.
A chance to heal on an emotional level.
It’s important to both you & the ‘win him back’ plan.
You may well blow any remaining chance of getting your ex back if you aren’t under emotional control.
Being in control allows you to navigate through any potential explosive situation.
You get to show how cool you are under fire.
The secong good thing about having zero contact is that he will most definitely notice you are not there.
If he finished with you, you’re probably wondering why he would miss my being around?
You were a constant in his life for a while. Not being there now will force him to wonder about you.
He’s thinking about you when he notices you aren’t there.
Doesn’t matter how little or often you are in his thoughts as long as you are in them.
If you aren’t around and he thinks of you, his thoughts will probably be good.
Ok I’ll stay away, but for how long?
Good question and it will be different for everyone.
I guess three or four weeks is the max. The last thing you need is him looking for another date.
What next? Your emotions are in A1 shape, you are now ready to try to win him back. How?
Good question! The simple answer is to arm yourself with a battle plan.
Something that holds your hand every step of the way.
Your options are… Use your own skill to win him back.
Good luck with that.
Your other choice is to use a ready made system that has worked many times before.
Believe it or not there are a handful of systems and methods out there on the net.
Methods that have worked over and over for hundreds if not thousands of people.
Systems that you can follow step by step.
To say I was skeptical when I first discovered a system like this is an understatement.
Well, my skeptisism was blown out of the water.
There must be some magic behind it when the most popular system has over twelve thousand people raving about it.
So, your options now are…go into it blind and try to learn how to win him back yourself.
Or take the route that the smart people take and borrow the wisdom of some successful people.
It’s a bit of a no brainer in my opinion.
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